3 weeks old

Little Olive Sian is now three weeks old. She has grown and changed, she still dances with her hands – she doesn’t like to be swaddled, she’s a free woman! She looks intently (for a few seconds at a time) and its enough to take your breath away when she catches your eye. The hair on her ear is growing longer and longer and at the back she has a wee mullet that is nearly long enough for a clip! She might have a honker of a nose, her nostrils are like a taniwha’s. The spots are clearing up and she is looking more beautiful than ever. 

We are settling into our new home life, this week is better than last. Its strange for Mama being home all the time and having a brain of mush with no occupation, makes it hard to sleep in the days because my brain goes around in circles – mostly of nonsense.

The smiles are coming together, not exactly voluntary but arguably responsive.  The bottom lip of her smile is like the hull of a ship and top is like Rangitoto or the mast of a ship, it is total delight and makes Mama forget how desperately tired she is some days.   

Olive snorts like a piglet for the bebe, farts like a man and poos like a hydroslide (at3am this morning she showed her poo squirt to a succession of three clean nappies). Her life is glam. She makes the sweetest little sighing noises and we’ve  still  managed to keep her from having a real cry (other than in the bloody car. We hate the car).  She has the softest skin. 

We went to meet with the mamas and bubbas from antenatal class today and Mama felt like Olive was really hers (and the cutest by far) when all the bubbas were together. 

Second from left, with my antenatal group buddies

Papa is busy to the max with school and loves to carry Olive in the new ergobaby carrier, its like a drug. She can’t help but fall asleep. Olive is going to learn all about practical things from her Papa while she is in the ergo. She likes the ergo, she didn’t like the wrap – it was too tight, she didn’t like the sling – she doesn’t like being horizontal, Mama and Papa don’t like the front pack – it gives them a sore back. So we spent $199 and got the fancy one.

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Today she went to sleep with her angry face on, she also has a mean frown… She didn’t make the angry face when she fell out of the front pack and donked her head on the car when Mama clipped it up wrong and Papa bent forward and she flipped out. She did squawk though, oh yeah, maybe she has had a cry after all.

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Boss of the bed

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Bed sharing rocks

Bed-sharing, co-sleeping, or separate sleeping?

Recently, there has become a clear distinction between co-sleeping and what experts now refer to as bed-sharing. In order to decide what is best for your family, it is important to know the difference.

According to Attachment Parenting International (API), the definitions are as follows:

“Co-sleeping refers to sleeping in ‘close proximity’, which means the child is on a separate sleep surface in the same room as the parents.”

“Bed-sharing, also called the ‘family bed’, describes a sleep arrangement where the family members sleep on the same surface.”

While new parents may feel pressured to have their baby “sleep through the night”, this scenario describes a myth. Frequent waking occurs for myriad reasons, and throughout most of the phases of a baby’s growth and development into childhood. Most parents find it less disruptive to sleep in close proximity to the baby, to accommodate for nighttime feeding and other needs with minimal interruption. In fact, babies often settle back into a deep sleep very easily with a quick feeding and comforting snuggle from a parent. Some parents are encouraged to let the baby “cry it out”, believing that this will teach the baby to self-soothe and eventually train him to sleep on his own. However, according to a recent article published on API’s website:

“New research suggests that these techniques can have detrimental physiological effects on the baby by increasing the stress hormone cortisol in the brain, with potential long term effects to emotional regulation, sleep patterns and behavior.”

Indeed, proponents of attachment parenting agree that sleeping with a child close is preferable to separating for the night. But bed-sharing has recently come under attack as numerous “studies” have claimed to show a link between bed-sharing and infant death. A closer look at the studies conducted, and the groups sponsoring them, reveals a more complicated picture.

According to Dr. Sears, one campaign to encourage crib sleeping is sponsored by the Juvenile Products Manufacturing Association (JPMA); an association of crib manufacturers. This obviously reflects a conflict of interest that cannot be overlooked. In fact, Sears, a widely respected doctor, child-rearing guru, and father, reports that approximately 2,600 cases of SIDS occurred each year in 1999, 2000, and 2001. An additional 180 cases of non-SIDS related infant deaths occurred in an adult bed during those same three years (possibly attributable to suffocation, smothering, and entrapment in furniture or bedding; and a figure meant to discourage bed-sharing). Thus, the number of accidental deaths in an adult bed was only 1.5% of the total cases of SIDS; certainly a figure not significant enough to demand the avid anti-bed-sharing campaign launched by the JPMA and others.

Practicing safe bed-sharing, however, means abiding by certain guidelines:

  • Avoid excessive alcohol intake or drug use while bed-sharing.
  • Since mothers are usually more in tune with the baby and less likely to roll onto him, the baby should sleep next to his mother rather than between parents.
  • Put the baby to sleep on his back.
  • Keep the baby away from the edge of the bed.

When reasonable precautions are taken, bed-sharing is a safe, nurturing, and widely-practiced sleeping choice. A nearby parent is far more likely to be alerted to any changes in the baby’s sleep; including choking, gasping, coughing, and crying, than a parent in another room. In fact, according to a comprehensive article published in Mothering Magazine in 2002, in which worldwide studies and results were considered; “Research shows that infants who sleep in a crib are twice as likely to suffer a sleep related fatality (including SIDS) than infants who sleep in bed with their parents. ” (Dr. Sears)

Consider the following facts when choosing a sleep method for your family:

  • 95 % of the world sleeps with their baby. In countries where co-sleeping nearly universal, such as Hong Kong and Japan, SIDS rates are among the lowest on record.
  • Co-sleeping babies cry less and sleep more.
  • Infants who sleep with their parents under reasonable, safe conditions; either bed-sharing or co-sleeping; have higher survival rates.
    (Sleeping With Your Baby: A Parent’s Guide to CoSleeping; James J. McKenna; 2007)
  • Both babies and mothers sleep better when bed-sharing, as they synchronize their sleep and wake patterns and drift between cycles with minimal interruption.
    (Dr. Sears, http://www.askdr.sears.com/html/10/T130400.asp)
  • Bed-sharing encourages and facilitates breastfeeding, which is proven to be best for baby’s health.

Bed-sharing and co-sleeping are natural, healthy, and safe choices for parents and their baby. Sleeping in close proximity to the baby is a natural way to promote nurturing and bonding, ensure quality sleep, and build a solid foundation of trust and confidence between parents and their baby. When done properly, bed-sharing is safer than leaving the baby alone, and encourages healthy breastfeeding, breathing, and sleep patterns for babies.

http://www.ergobabycarrier.com/resources/2008/12/bedsharing-cosleeping-or-separ.html

Excerpt from a random (and a bit weird) name blog

Nini found this blog http://onomastitrix.blogspot.com/ which tracks and comments on names, I guess from birth notices. Anyway, she likes our pick so we like it!

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Up and at ’em

Mama and little Olive are now up and about and dressed every day, which is something of a turn up for the books. Today we went to a La Leche League meeting, lots of like-minded attachment parenting mamas to chat with. Olive didn’t like all the noise, but she did like the bebe.

Little Olive’s puku has been full of gas bubbles and she turns into a desperate-to-fart baby at about 4am each day. It might be the chocolate. Or the mandarins. Her snuffles seem to have passed, two sleepless nights for Mama. It could have been worse.

Olive stayed awake most of the afternoon yesterday, doing lots of looking around. It seems like she might be coming to terms with the abandonment of her wet and warm womby home in favour of the outside world. 

I think she looks like a cartoon character baby. Life is slow.

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Talking to Papa